Sex When Women Menstruation?

Intercourse (sex) is fun, especially if the condition you and your partner always fit. But when the woman is menstruating (menstrual), men should not force it to make love in bed, let alone to perform penetration (intercourse). What article?
Consider the explanation is not allowed intercourse with the wife while the following period, a detailed explanation of aspects of both health and religious perspective.
Dangers of Sex On The Menstruation of Health.
According to Dr. Boy Abidin, a woman who is menstruating should not have sex. Because the female sex organs will have an infection because the blood that should be pushed out into the vagina. That led to the occurrence of endometriosis.
"Endometriosis is a pain in women and occurs adhesions which cause her trouble conceiving," light active genekolog provide counseling about sexual behavior in adolescents.
According to this friendly doctor, married couples should have sex before or after the menstrual period. It was a woman's fertile period.
"The woman's fertile two weeks before the next coming months. Fertile period only comes one day only. But sperm can survive 2-3 days in the egg cell lines. If there is a mature egg cell at the time, sperm can still fertilize, "he said.
(Source: Okezone)
Islamic teachings prohibit Wife Sex during menstruation is
At least there are several laws related to women's menstruation. Among these laws are interfering with Prohibition husband (intercourse) wife who is menstruating.
Abu Hafs Osama bin Kamal bin Abdir-Rahimahumullah-Razzaq in his book says his wife was forbidden to interfere with menstruation, based on the word of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala-:
"They ask thee about menstruation. Say, 'Menstruation is a dirt. "Therefore be ye abstain from women at the time of menstruation, and do not approach them, before they are sacred. If they were sacred, then campurilah they were in a place that ordered God to thee. Truly Allah loves those who repent and love the people who meyucikan themselves. "(Al-Baqarah: 222)
The purpose of the words do not approach them, before they are sacred to berjima ban '(sex) with a wife while still in a state of menstruation.
In a hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi-wa-Salam said:
"Do everything except intercourse with her against him." (Reported by Muslim, At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa'i, Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah, Ahmad, Ad-Darimi)
A more explicit prohibition is said to the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa-Salam, in his saying,
"Whoever menjima'i (copulate), his wife who was in a state of menstruation or menjima'i anus (anal sex), then surely he has Kufr to Muhammad, sallallaahu alaihi wa-Salam."
Hopefully this paper can increase our knowledge about the world of sexology in terms of both health and religious (spiritual).

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FIRST NIGHT

The first night was an evening where the two lovebirds who previously did not know each other in depth will meet in an intimate and have sex. What is important to consider, first is the bridal chamber. Rooms should be decorated well and encourage them to increase sexual arousal.

At the time of going to mix, the husband should take the initiative first. Therefore, the need for husbands to wives expressed more easily by doing a sweep, kiss up to insert the penis into the vagina of his wife. With such a physical condition, the husband can freely set. Concentrate attention on both the sex intimacy.
Various emotional turmoil that night terletup. The condition is support for the turmoil it, plus tired body due to a reception at noon. Therefore, it is advisable to have sex on the first second or third day where fatigue and tired and jiwapun already gone quiet.
Keep in mind, usually on the first night of sex is often doomed to failure. This does not need to worry and create trauma. Understandably both partners totally inexperienced and new organs to know each other's body. How could the overnight pair of husband and wife can be an expert to do something strange and tumultuous this. This condition must be understood both sides so as not blaming each other if not satisfactory.

Start by doing a sweep-sweep, seducing each other and perform a warm kisses. Here is good foreplay for the first night. Husband will provide guidance and peace for his wife in the process of sex so that they can go along to get climax. On the first night, did not necessarily have to happen penetration. Playing games is enough for the new couple. Only in the third or fourth day, after knowing the sexual characteristics of each, penetration can be done. The vagina was already accustomed to stretch so that it can easily accept the entry of the penis husband.

Mutual understanding the feelings of both parties should always be done. Because the husband who takes the initiative, ask where the good wife's position. Usually on this first link above position against the husband and wife under. If necessary, put a pillow under his wife's ass. This position allows the penis to enter into the vagina. After doing foreplay until 'warm', the husband should ask his wife if ready when his penis is inserted. If the wife felt her vagina was stretched and wet by the wetting fluid so he already physically ready to receive the penis. The husband must be patient when in psychiatric wife is not ready to receive his penis. At the time of her husband through the vagina, penis would tear the hymen which has become a symbol of her virginity. This tearing does not always lead to bleeding. So if the husband does not need to be suspicious when it did not penetrate the blood out and then think that not-not against his wife. And do not ever revealed or discussed it during sex that night. Offense wife would make a bad relationship befall them.

The condition of the hymen is already torn before the first night was a lot of why, such as exercise habits of the wife as hard as martial arts, horse riding, cycling, or activities that a lot of motion around the crotch. So do not be because of sex. The point in having sex, be as wise as possible. If there is something unpleasant or painful, apologize and do not be forwarded.

In the first sexual relationship with a patient both try to reach orgasm. But do not be too forced. Orgasm is obtained on the first night will give a deep impression in the lives of the next household. But if it fails, the two couples do not have to regret it. Husband must be good at entertaining his wife by saying that he loved his wife, kiss-kiss her tenderly, and said, "we'll try again, dear." Wife who is treated so will calm down and fall asleep with a happy, though her love is not reached the peak that night.

In short, the first night was the culmination of all activities at the reception. All hope rests on the beauty of that night. Unrest romance and lust will boil over at the time to look forward to it. But be aware, that hope may not be fulfilled on the first night. They must believe the peak of sexual pleasure will be gotten on the following days.

Kama sutra sex in Islam

As part of the innate nature of humanity, Islam has never suppress sexual desire. Islam offers a comprehensive guide for sex can still be enjoyed a Muslim without having to lose the rhythm of worship.

Month of Shawwal, for Indonesian Muslims, could be regarded as the breeding season. This assumption is certainly not without reason. Among students and muhibbin usually chose the moon as a time to hold aqad marriage.

The habit could not be separated from the advice of the scholars who come from the expression Sayyidatina Aisha bint Abu Bakr that the Prophet married the king in Syawwal. He commented,

"Surely in the months Syawwal wedding was full of blessing and contains much good."

However, to achieve true happiness in the household of course not enough to get married in the month Syawwal. There are many things that need to be carefully studied and diamalkan by married couples to achieve peace (sakinah), love (mawaddah) and compassion (mercy), both physically and spiritually. One of them-and most important-is a matter of intimate relationships or in the language of jurisprudence called Jima '.
As one objective the implementation of marriage, intimate relationships, according to Islam, including one of religious worship that is highly recommended and contains a very large reward value. Because Jima 'in the bond of marriage is a lawful way provided by God to wreak biological human desires and connect descendants of the sons of Adam.

Also Jima 'which is also kosher iabadah a great rewarding. Rasulullah SAW said, "In the dick that is charity." Companion then asked, "O Messenger of Allah, whether we get rewarded with intercourse with our wives?." Prophet replied, "Is not if you distribute illicit lust on the road will be sinful? And vice versa, if channeled in a halal way, you will be rewarding. "(Narrated by Bukhari, Abu Dawood and Ibn Khuzaimah)

Because the noble aims and it is worth worship each sex in the household should be aimed at and performed the Islamic way, which is in accordance with the guidance of the Quran and the sunna Prophet Muhammad.
Intimate relationships, according to Ibn Qayyim al-Jawzi in Ath-Thibbun Nabawi (Prophet's Medicine style), in accordance with the instructions Messenger has three objectives: to maintain continuity of lineage and the human race, issued a fluid that when languishing in the body would be dangerous, and took pleasure God bestowed.
Salaf Ulema teach, "Someone should keep three things in themselves: Do not let not walk away, so if one day have to do it is not difficult; Do not let not eat, for the gut is not narrowed, and not to leave the sex, because of water wells only when not in use will dry himself.
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His face was grim

Muhammad ibn Zakariya adds, "Anyone who does not have intercourse for a long time, will weaken the power of his body organs, nerves will be strained and clogged blood vessels. I also see people who deliberately do not do Jima 'with the intention of celibacy, his body became cold and his face grim. "
Meanwhile, among the benefits of intercourse in marriage, according to Ibn Qayyim, is subdued and eyes and heart and holiness of the act unlawful. Jima 'is also beneficial to the psychological health of the perpetrators, through matchless enjoyment it produces.
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The peak of pleasure is called orgasm or intercourse faragh. Although not all sexual relationships must culminate faragh, but efforts to achieve optimal fair faragh obligatory. The definition of fair is faragj orgasm can be felt by both parties, ie, husband and wife.

Why mandatory? Because faragh together is one important element in achieving the purpose of marriage that is sakinah, mawaddah and mercy. Dissatisfaction with one party in Jima ', if allowed to drag on, it is feared will bring greater madharat, namely fornication. Thus, in accordance with basic principles of Islam, wa la la dharara dhirar (not dangerous and harmful), any attempt to prevent the things that endanger the legitimate marriage is also obligatory.

However, the satisfaction that must be pursued in Jima 'is a satisfaction that is located within the limits of human reasonableness, custom and religion. Not justified to use the pretext of reaching satisfaction to perform deviant sexual practices, such-and-so (liwath) which has been medically proven to be dangerous. Or use of force in sexual activity (mashokisme), both physically and mentally, the latter often happens.
Thus, in accordance with the rules of usul fiqh "ma la illa yatimmul wajibu bihi fahuwa wajibun" (something that became mandatory requirement for perfection case, is also obligatory), recognize and learn the elements that can deliver Jima 'to faragh also obligatory.

For men, the achievement of faragh very clear sign that when Jima 'has reached phase out ejaculation or semen. But is not the case with the weaker sex ', mostly of type "late summer", or-even-not easy to heat. To that required a variety of strategies to hasten.
And, one of the most important element of the strategy is achieving faragh preliminary or heating in a foreign language is called foreplay (isti'adah). Heating fairly and accurately, according to sexology experts, will speed women reach faragh.

Since it is considered very important, warm up before berjima 'also commanded the Prophet Muhammad. He said,

"Let not any one of you intercourse with his wife like an animal. He shall first give an introduction, namely kisses and sweet talk cooed. "(Narrated by At-Tirmidhi).

Kissing in the above hadith of course in the true meaning. In fact, Prophet Muhammad, narrated in Sunan Abu Dawud, kissing lips and sucking her tongue Aisha. Two of these hadith as well put your kiss between husband and wife as a kesunahan before berjima '.

When Jabir to marry a widow, the Prophet asked him, "Why did you not marry a girl so you can jolly jokes? ... That can bite each other's lips with you. "HR. Bukhari (number 5079) and Muslim (II: 1087).
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Mouth Odor

Therefore, couples should be very concerned about all elements of the perfect kiss phase. Either by mastering techniques and tricks good kissing, as well as hygiene and health of body organs that will be used kissing. Because it can be, rather than raise the temperature Jima ', bad breath is not fresh, it will reduce the spirit and desire a partner.

While seduction mentioned above are all words that can attract a partner, increase intimacy and stimulate passion berjima '. In terms of jurisprudence sentences that stimulate seduction called rafats, which of course forbidden spoken to other than his wife.

In addition to kissing and seduction, another important element in the heating is a touch of tenderness. For married couples, all parts of the body is permitted to touch objects, including the genitals. Especially if it is meant as encouragement Jima '. Similarly, Ibn Taymiyya's opinion.

Nashirudin Shaykh Al-Albani, quoting words of Ibn al-Hanbali Urwah in his book is still shaped manuscript, Al-Kawakbu Ad-Durari,

"Allowed for husband and wife to see and feel all their partner's curves, including the genitals. Because the genitalia are body parts that may be enjoyed in making out, of course may also be seen and touched. Taken from the view of Imam Malik and other scholars. "

Thanks to the greatness of God, every part of the human body have different sensitivities and a sense that when touched or looked at. So, to increase the quality Jima ', husband and wife allowed to also take off all her clothes. From Aisha RA, he was told, "I never take a bath with one vessel preformance Messenger ..." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).

To obtain optimal results touch, husband and wife should know very well the points are easy to excite their partners. It needs an open and relaxed communication between husband and wife, to find those points, for maximum effect when berjima '.
Permissible for husband and wife who were berjima 'to sigh. Because sigh is part of the increase arousal. Imam As-Suyuti narrates, there is a qadhi that intercourse with his wife. Suddenly his wife swerved and sighed. The qadhi was rebuked. But when next day the qadhi came to his wife he would say, "Do as yesterday."

One more thing that adds pleasure in the intimate relationship of husband and wife, namely the position of intercourse. Incidentally Islam itself provides the broadest freedoms to the adherents to try different variations of the position in sex. The only provision is subject to Shari'a, all sex positions that remain to be done in one way, which fanny. Not the other.
Allah says,

"Your wives are a farming tanammu, Go to it from any direction that you want." QS. Al-Baqarah (2:223).

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Position Ijba '

According to commentators, this verse was revealed in connection with the incident in Medina. Once when some women of Medina who was married to the muhajirin complained to the Prophet Muhammad, because their husbands want to have sex in a position ijba 'or tajbiyah.

Ijba is a sex position where he came from behind female vulva. At issue, the women of Madinah had ever heard of Jewish women say, anyone who berjima 'in a way ijba' then his future will be wall-eyed. Then came a verse.

In connection with verse 233 Surah Al-Baqarah was Imam Nawawi explains, "The verse shows the permissibility of female copulate from the front or rear, by the way override or bertelungkup. The rectum is not allowed to copulate through, because it's not the location of cultivation. "Farm in question is bred.
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Muhammad Syamsul Haqqil Azhim Abadi in 'Aunul Ma'bud added, "The word field (hartsun) referred to in the Qur'an shows, women may be clocked by any means: lying, standing or seated, and facing or back .."

Thus, Islam, as religion rahmatan lil 'alamin, again proved to have teachings that are very complete and thorough in guiding his people sailed the oceans of life. All sides and the potential life completely peeled and given detailed guidance, so his people could stay while undergoing bersyariat nature of humanity.

(Kang Iftah. Source: Purple Silk, Intimate Related Guide In the Islamic perspective, the work of Abu Omar Ba'asyir)